Read one of the tweets today which said “Constantly awed by women who manage kids, a job, workout, travel, parties, books and social media. Even listing all that tired me out”
It made me think for a while, for the very reason that I kind of fall in this category. I work full time, a mother to a 4 years old with whom I craft & paint & read, I write blogs, attend tweets chats, have friends in life with whom I party and plan holidays, have a husband, of course, who apparently has no complaints of me not able to give him time 😉 , and I keep time for myself for reading books, reviewing them on my blog and well, that majorly sums my whole life.
The point is not that I’m doing so much. The point here is, yes there are people who manage their life, as they want to, in an easy manner and are mostly successful at it.
So how do people manage having everything, when we’ve been brought up on the ideology that you can’t have everything ?
I think the magic lies in keeping a goal of balancing everything and not to have everything! Some things that come to my mind, that I follow to achieve things that I want from my life are these:
Prioritize: I know, this is very commonly spoken about and must have umpteen articles and how-tos about it on the Internet. But the problem is we all know, but we don’t really prioritize. There will always be 10 things expected out of you at the workplace in a day. There will be 5 things every day on your mind to be done in your personal life. And the fact remains, not all days it would be possible to achieve all those 15 things. So, the first thing we need to be really clear about is acceptance. Acceptance of the fact that there is only limited you can do, not because you are incapable of it but because not all tasks are under your control. Lot of tasks at workplace will have dependency on others, lot of commitments in personal life will have importance of other person’s availability. So, we need to accept that out of 10 only those which hold top priority of being done the same day should appear in your to-do list for that day. Also, you might as well be a great multi-tasker, but don’t over do it. Pay attention to each task likewise. This will save your time, I’m sure.
Plan: I think planning well and in advance really really plays an important role. Of course for impromptu tasks/events you can’t do much but if your other tasks are well planned, you are still better of of the sudden situation coming your way! Keep space for these uncalled for events in personal life or meetings in professional. And please make sure your planned activities should be timed, breaking the timeliness creates spillage of tasks and that’s where the mess begins!
List: You should list down your tomorrow’s task prior. If today you list down the things you need to do tomorrow in office, you’ll be in better shape to judge and commit for your personal things for tomorrow, vice versa too. Once the list is made, it gets glued to your mind, so you are aware that you can’t over commit or fit some extra tasks or maybe just take a break from office, nice feast right? 🙂
You: Never ever forget, in all this drill of managing home & office, it is you who is important. Don’t let the YOU get lost in this whirlwind of life. Things will take place, time will run at its own pace, don’t miss to pay attention to what your YOU needs. Communicate with yourself, listen to your needs, there will be times when you’ll need a break from everything, give that to yourself, your deserve it! Your hobbies & interests are very important and should get listed in your life, as one of the priorities!
Feel: Finally, anything and everything can be done only if you really really feel passionate for it! If you are not passionate about it, you don’t want it. Its that simple !! So feel passionate for your work, your life, your kids and your spouse. All these complete you as a person. They are important ingredients that will help you live your life to the fullest! And most importantly, know your passion 🙂
I think it is very easy to balance, just that we need to know the knack of it all. Don’t challenge yourself, there is no competition of who is doing how much in their lives. It is about you as an individual, and as much you can do, is good for you. And if you cannot, don’t feel bad just because someone else can do greater than you 🙂
Live Lively, Feel Happy!